Monday, May 16, 2011

How to be happy? Finding or Creating ourselves?

"Life isn't about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself."


This sounds very profound and smart and right.


But how often do we become miserable because we are trying to create someone that is not who we really are.


Creating a wrong self could be worst thing in life. It's a waste of life.



I guess we all have someone we admire, we want to become like them, maybe it's our mom, maybe it's our friend, maybe it's a historical hero...


Creating is a wonderful project.


I think it start with finding out what we have and what we can get, then we organize, and then we start creating based on what we have.


How do we create ourselves without finding ourselves? If we don't even know who we really are, how do we create ourselves? We would just expect a peach out of an apricot tree, and become disappointed. But apricot is also great, we just didn't know the seed we had was actually an apricot tree seed!

If we know we have an apricot tree sees, and we want a peach out of it, I might actually succeed. We can graft. But we first need to know what we have!


Life IS about creating ourselves, but it's also about finding ourselves, and we actually have to find ourselves first, then start the wonderful project of creating.


We will be happy if we know who we are and what we can and want to become, and dedicate our lives to create the best self.


Monday, May 2, 2011

The Key to Happiness----Self-Control

As I was carrying out my plan of getting rid of the addictions, I realized how important it is to have self-control.

I've never connected self-control to happiness before, never realized that they have a compagnionship with each other.

I could not completely follow my plans at the beginning, I always find "chances" to get back to what I'm addicted to, but gradually I managed to control more and more on my "desires."

I feel definitely much happier not only because I was able to fulfill all my duties, but also to be able to control my desire and my will, this alone can already make me feel very happy.

Self-Control, is a power in my own hand, nothing can over-come me except by my will and my allowance.

By gaining my self-control back, I found my peaceful happiness.